Thomas Augustine Slymon, age 85, formerly of Warrenville; beloved husband of Nelly (née Perelez) Slymon; loving father of Amira (Shawn) Ballin & Soraya (Eric) Faber; proud grandfather of Robert & Maria Ballin and Thomas, Liam, & Sam Faber; dear brother of Claire (the late Joe) Thornton, the late Veronica Meade, & the late John (Joann) Slymon; uncle to many nieces and nephews & friend to everyone.
Tom was born to Irish immigrant parents in 1935 and spent his childhood causing trouble with his childhood buddies and tormenting his sisters in the Mission Hill neighborhood in Boston. At the ripe age of 13, he started what would become a lifetime of service through his seminarian education. At that time, he was a valuable southpaw asset to the sports teams (baseball, hockey, basketball, handball and tennis), developed a love for acting, and, every once in a while, got some schoolwork done.
Upon his ordination in 1960, he packed his bags and embarked on an adventure to the Caribbean where he served as a Redemptorist priest. His mission was simple: Serve the poorest of the poor and provide comfort, guidance and witness to the needs of the community. Together with his good friend, Father Thomas Travers, they built a training center for the poor farmers in Las Matad de Farfan, Dominican Republic, to lift them out of a life of poverty. He also built a chapel for the underserviced in Fajardo, Puerto Rico and served as pastor at San Augustin in San Juan.
In 1974, he embarked on the next chapter of his life, continuing his mission to serve, but outside of the church. And it was at this time he met the love of his life, a fiery young Puerto Rican redhead named Nelly Perelez. She challenged, supported and cherished him and as a couple they become one with an unbreakable bond.
Shortly after they were married in 1975, they welcomed their first daughter Amira and, 14 months later, came bambina #2, Soraya. Parenthood came naturally to Tom as he supported his daughters’ endeavors in theater, sports, academics and life. He was a softball coach, show choir concession salesman, speech judge, guest lecturer and jubilant audience member. He welcomed their friends and neighbors and the Slymon home was a destination that was filled with love, great Puerto Rican food and meaningful connection.
Tom forged strong and lasting friendships with pretty much everyone he met. He loved seminary reunions to Mt. St Alphonsus and was a founding member of the “Sammys”, a group of former priests that used their love of writing as yet another reason to gather and celebrate. He bonded with his Anam Cara group through St Thomas, and looked forward to their gatherings to talk about religion and politics (all of things you’re not supposed to discuss at the dinner table). He was also a frequent visitor to the Courtyard Banquets, where he could be found enjoying a Manhattan on the rocks with his close friends.
He welcomed his sons in laws, Shawn and Eric, into the family as if they were his own and loved a rousing game of rummy or Scrabble and witnessed some great Chicago sporting events (including a Blackhawks/Bruins Stanley Cup finals game which he often referenced as one of the greatest nights of his life…outside of his wedding and birth of children, of course). They made our family whole as the sons Tom always dreamed of.
And then came grandchildren. Tom took great pride in the title as “Grandpa” and took his duties to Robby, Thomas, Liam, Maria and Sam very seriously. He introduced them to great music, literature, Boston sports teams, chess and being good upright citizens. Summers at Lake Geneva were among his favorite destinations as we enjoyed many rounds of golf, cornhole, Ticket to Ride and karaoke as a family.
His career path continued to draw him towards opportunities to give back. He worked for the Department of Children and Family services in DuPage County, then later moved into hospital administration as President of Community Nursing Services, also serving on the board at Central DuPage Health.
Always a giver, he continued a lifetime of providing to the community through countless hours serving the homeless through PADS Hesed House, providing medical assistance through the Wheaton Community Clinic, helped fundraise for legal services for the underprivileged for the DuPage County Legal Aid Foundation, creating the Parish nursing program in Wheaton and serving as an on-call chaplain at Rush Copley Medical Center.
While we are deeply saddened about his departure, we are comforted in his strong faith and belief that he will always be with us. And will continue to follow the Padre’s example to help one another and his advice to “Hang loose and keep smiling”. He truly was the Greatest.
Memorial Mass at 10am on Thursday, December 17, 2020 at St. Cletus Church, 600 W. 55th Street, LaGrange, IL 60525. All those wishing to attend must register at the following link: https://www.signupgenius.com/go/10C0D4DA9AB2CA6FECE9-thomas In order to ensure COVID compliance , unregistered guests will not be permitted. Please register by 5pm on Wednesday, December 16. For those unable to attend, you can view the Mass in real time at the following address: https://www.youtube.com/user/stcletusparish
In lieu of flowers, memorial donations in Tom’s name to Hesed House (hesedhouse.org) are appreciated. Arrangements entrusted to Hallowell & James Funeral Home, Countryside. Information: (708) 352-6500
The loss of Tom leaves a hole in my heart. He was a fine man who was always there for every person who had a need. His family has been a part of me for oh so many years. I wish I could be with you, however it is not possible. Celeste and I will include him in our prayers. God Bless.
Thank you so much for your kind words Papa Joe. He absolutely adored you and was so ecstatic to see his daughters on stage under your careful and thoughtful direction. Thank you for bringing so much joy to the Slymon family. You’re what my Dad would refer to as “The Greatest”.
Condolences to Tom’s family from another Mission Hiller now living in Illinois – Woodridge, Dupage County. I’m Lydia McCarthy Ferrigan and lived a few doors away from the Slymons. I gather that he entered the seminary at a young age and wasn’t around the neighborhood, as I only remember Claire and Ronny. Sounds like he was a wonderful kind and caring person and left the world a better place.
Thank you so much for your kind words Lydia. It’s great to hear another Mission Hill kid is in the neighborhood ❤️
Cheers to you and your family.
May our Lord grant him his well deserved eternal rest, and grant you all peace and comfort, to endure this sensible loss.
Thank you so much for your kind words Roger. We love you all so much abs look forward to seeing you in the post COVID world. ❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words Roger. We love you all so much and look forward to seeing you in the post COVID world. ❤️
Very painful and difficult moments to all of you.
His life will always inspire you and will be
forever a part of your life.
My sympathy, love and prayers for the whole family.
Thank you so much Mari and Carlos. Sending our warmest holiday wishes your way. ❤️
What a beautiful recounting of a beautiful life!
Thank you so much Jane and Greg. We appreciate your kind thoughts and prayers. ❤️
Was saddened to hear of Tom’s passing. He was a great Friend and Confidant to many of us from the Courtyard days. Our deepest condolences go out to his wife Nelly and all the Slymon family. May the family find comfort in all those beautiful memories through this time. Rest In Peace our friend. Jim & Dianne Carmody
Thanks so much Diane. So many found memories from Super Bowl parties to weekly cards and catch-ups. The Courtyard was a second home for my Dad and all of you our extended family ❤️
I still remember the moment as I listened to your words of confort in the passing of my husband Hugo 41 years ago. You brought so much peace to my heart at that critical moment in my life. And for that I will be eternally grateful. Lillian
Thank you so much for your kind words Lillian. I’m so happy he was able to bring you comfort during such a devastating time. Hugs to you! ❤️
So very sorry for your loss. Out hearts are breaking for you. Sending lots of love your way.
Thank you Jacqui. We have fond memories from our visit to your home. Dad adored you! ❤️
Ah, forever the Padre. Tom had a way with life. He made the most of it and his love touch many places, many people. His mind was always seeking, aided by his flashlight of a smile. No dark places wherever he went. He brightened my thinking, my faith, my sense of always something more. I’m certain his family knows that far better than I. And now he’s home. We are more aware because of him, always curious, and trying to love the way he taught us, helping self and others to find peace, within and all about. Charles Wilkinson
Dearest Nelly, I am so sorry for your loss. Tom was a wonderful man. I send you and your family love and sympathy. You’re in my prayers. Love, Leslie
Nellie, I hold you tight as you morn your loving husband, Tom. I know these are difficult times, but be assured you are NOT alone! I am here for you.
I send my condolences and prayers to you, the girls and rest of your family. Peace Laura